tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.comments2023-01-19T02:52:46.534-08:00Crazy Beautiful Anna: My Life as a Single MomAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08891539010129634439noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-21001886521274208422020-08-10T23:13:52.062-07:002020-08-10T23:13:52.062-07:00Good post...
digital marketing company in USAGood post...<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://uniqwebtech.com/digital-marketing-company/" rel="nofollow">digital marketing company in USA</a><br />Bernothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00203736843600389806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-34056614391982583282020-08-10T23:13:20.908-07:002020-08-10T23:13:20.908-07:00Good post..Good post..Bernothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00203736843600389806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-90250276470693502122013-04-16T16:00:35.873-07:002013-04-16T16:00:35.873-07:00It's funny...when we talked, I was thinking ab...It's funny...when we talked, I was thinking about how my ex's birthday was just the end of last month & even after 25+ years, I still think about him. I mean, don't get me wrong...not in a "oh, what if everything had worked out." But more remembering some of the happy times, and thanks to the impermanence buddhism, I forget the knock down drag out fights where things were said that would never be unsaid, etc. etc.<br />But death, heh, yeah. After my mom died, I hit every date...my birthday & how she'd always do this for me, her birthday, thanksgiving, christmas, New years & how we'd always call at midnight, Easter, her anniversary with my Dad, and finally, the Last Month. For years, I'd think about how Sep 9th was the last day she told me she loved me, and how I'd made her last meal that she could eat, and then the date of the stroke & then the date she died...and it was wrenching inside of me. <br />Then, after 8.5 years, I had a long talk with hubby and he said she would never have wanted me to be this sad...ever. And I thought about that for 2 years. And then things got a little easier. <br />It may have been brought on by losing someone every 6 months for 11 years....the last was like a fireworks ending...3 uncles in 4 months.<br />And now that it seems to be starting up again (2 deaths in 6 weeks...probably a 3rd coming up), I feel so light and neutral inside. That it's just the way of things.<br /><br />Mind you, I don't think losing a child is the way of things. And I don't think you ever get over it. You just learn to cope with it better. And appreciate all the good in your life.<br /><br />But you know, I think what we miss out on with our Be Happy, Don't Damn, Take a Gram mentality? We can't appreciate the happy without the sorrow....And I think we're turning into plastic people who are insensitive to others because we forget that these bad times should be shared to make it easier to cope with.<br /><br />Just my 2c for today. :-)Los Gatos Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10609446988931868045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-85022191838250202582013-04-10T15:02:24.745-07:002013-04-10T15:02:24.745-07:00You are so cute! And I love the advice. Geeks unit...You are so cute! And I love the advice. Geeks united for love!Anna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-11338670750956885712013-04-09T14:25:01.497-07:002013-04-09T14:25:01.497-07:00Squee. So glad you finally found the right key to...Squee. So glad you finally found the right key to unlock real love. And speaking as someone who has been in Geek Love for, what, 25 years????.....it's not always easy but then, nothing is...you just hold onto that mutual affection and get through it.Los Gatos Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10609446988931868045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-28635642929027264542013-04-09T11:13:03.768-07:002013-04-09T11:13:03.768-07:00The refrain is the main thing. The verses? Not so ...The refrain is the main thing. The verses? Not so much!<br /><br />Whatever it's called, by whom, I like it! <br /><br />Many, many hearts,<br />-LBLB Johnsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-32857891502095844892013-04-09T10:55:41.334-07:002013-04-09T10:55:41.334-07:00Geeks trying to show their love via the internet!
...Geeks trying to show their love via the internet!<br />Turns out you can't embed YouTube videos in the comments. Not fair!<br /><br /><br />Anna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-68815583435916460542013-04-09T10:47:09.055-07:002013-04-09T10:47:09.055-07:00Oh my! Well, Nat says it best, as he so often can....Oh my! Well, Nat says it best, as he so often can...<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNH21uBFnPILB Johnsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-4116492809766444822013-04-02T11:47:14.289-07:002013-04-02T11:47:14.289-07:00Lisa was having trouble with Blogger (hey, Google,...Lisa was having trouble with Blogger (hey, Google, will you fix that?) but here's her reply, via Facebook:<br /><br />Los Gatos Girl,<br /><br />Thank you! I felt a lot of shame when this all happened. I didn't know that I could get such open hearted support (especially from people who don't know me). Thanks again!<br /><br />LisaLisa Xuhttps://www.facebook.com/lisayxunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-77321893374513159352013-04-02T10:25:26.432-07:002013-04-02T10:25:26.432-07:00Hang in there, Lisa! Sometimes I think we need to...Hang in there, Lisa! Sometimes I think we need to get our heart broken so we realize it can't break...it's like a squishy ball...you can see the dents but then they fade and you're ready to move on.<br />And you are most definitely brave. I know your story is going to help others because there's always the rats out there that have to cheat because of something wrong inside of them.<br />I know there are some that say it hurts because it meant we cared & loved them. Otherwise, if we hadn't, it wouldn't have hurt. So from that, I'd say remember you're a warm and vibrant person full of love, and the world needs more of that.Los Gatos Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10609446988931868045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-22343638663727845572013-03-25T18:09:47.103-07:002013-03-25T18:09:47.103-07:00Thank you, Stephen, for reading and for sharing yo...Thank you, Stephen, for reading and for sharing your experience and wisdom. I'm all for challenge, but there is learning the "hard" way and learning the "easy" way. Life should be fun and homophobia is not!<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />AnnaAnna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-571845749359244392013-03-25T13:57:45.004-07:002013-03-25T13:57:45.004-07:00That's interesting, the idea of "soft&quo...That's interesting, the idea of "soft" and "hard" homophobia. I actually wrote a post on reddit recently that outlines types of homophobia I've faced(link at the bottom). It's really amazing how motivated and strong it makes people to have the social deck stacked against them. As a queer person raised in a place that has a tremendous homophobic attitude, I know it's made me far stronger than if I had grown up straight. What fun is life if there's not a challenge?<br /><br />http://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeIAmA/comments/1a4e81/explain_whats_it_like_to_be_socially_rejected_as/c8u099aAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06041637712092198217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-79009748619860185092013-03-25T09:33:43.136-07:002013-03-25T09:33:43.136-07:00Hi Thea,
You can read about the breakup with the ...Hi Thea,<br /><br />You can read about the breakup with the transgender here:<br /> <br />http://crazybeautifulanna.blogspot.com/2012/09/i-can-take-hint.html<br /> <br />and here: <br /><br />http://crazybeautifulanna.blogspot.com/2012/12/respect.html <br /><br />if you want a little back story. It's definitely the one that birthed this blog.<br /><br />I'm so glad that you love these conversations. That makes my day! <br /><br />-- Anna Anna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-33843260452075337812013-03-21T17:13:12.624-07:002013-03-21T17:13:12.624-07:00Nice, Anna.
No mention (or did I miss it?) of the...Nice, Anna.<br /><br />No mention (or did I miss it?) of the breakup (was it the transgender person? The 22 year one?). I do love these conversations, and love the loving way you're having them.<br /><br />Enjoy your time, single, or partnered. <br /><br />Thea<br /><br />P.S. love the background. such joyous colors.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12131583918913087046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-17536384130546338652013-03-19T17:49:51.955-07:002013-03-19T17:49:51.955-07:00Hey Los Gatos Girl,
I am so happy I have another ...Hey Los Gatos Girl,<br /><br />I am so happy I have another friend who is courageous and loving enough to call herself queer.<br /><br />I hope you are right that people will learn to accept others for who they are with peace!<br /><br />Let's hear it for marching to the beat of another drummer.<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />AnnaAnna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-38042122615248526972013-03-19T15:01:11.150-07:002013-03-19T15:01:11.150-07:00I'm just queer in general since I walk to the ...I'm just queer in general since I walk to the beat of a different drum even in my normalcy :-D<br /><br />But seriously, let's look at some famous women who crossed over the bridge and really didn't care: Meredith Baxter, Cynthia Nixon come to mind. I'm sure there's others.<br /><br />And let's not ignore Madonna who is as queer as they come. She grabbed her sexuality and lived her life with no apology.<br /><br />I think, regardless of orientation, we can learn a lesson to be ourselves with no apologies, and accept others for who they are with peace.Los Gatos Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10609446988931868045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-35936422614113016282013-03-13T13:10:01.323-07:002013-03-13T13:10:01.323-07:00Hey Los Gatos Girl!
As usual, your comments were ...Hey Los Gatos Girl!<br /><br />As usual, your comments were right on the money! We didn't want to hyphenate, either -- hence the Bodega idea. <br /><br />Thank you for saying I am a fierce little bird who brings people joy. That is sweet and all I could wish for.<br /><br />Love you,<br /><br />AnnaAnna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-24446870956612793602013-03-13T13:06:20.479-07:002013-03-13T13:06:20.479-07:00I'll admit, they are pretty awesome!
http://u...I'll admit, they are pretty awesome! <br />http://us.colibri.com/<br /><br />But, my logo is better! http://www.annacolibri.com<br /><br />Thank you for checking in!<br /><br />AnnaAnna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-18320193494300972662013-03-12T20:00:45.988-07:002013-03-12T20:00:45.988-07:00I took my hubby's name for no reason other the...I took my hubby's name for no reason other then I thought it was the right thing to do considering I wanted kids and didn't want to hyphenate. My first name is only 4 letters but most everyone mispronounces it or misspells it. So it's funny that my hubby's name is simple yet totally difficult. I've had people think my name was Larry Sabins.<br />I think the name is secondary to who you believe you are. And I think Colibri is wonderful because you are the fierce little bird who brings people so much joy. So, cheers. *tink*Los Gatos Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10609446988931868045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-25414443606822351982013-03-12T18:03:39.596-07:002013-03-12T18:03:39.596-07:00My favorite mid-century lighters were Colibri.My favorite mid-century lighters were Colibri.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10077884053801025084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-66726715851871860582013-03-07T15:51:36.774-08:002013-03-07T15:51:36.774-08:00Your comments about how to "be there" fo...Your comments about how to "be there" for someone like a suffering mother, and the feelings they inspire within us -- especially if it started during childhood -- only confirm what I thought: It's tricky! Tricky to be human, to tricky to know how much to give and when.<br /><br />As for borrowing, I like to take what the bible says seriously, but this one stumps me. I guess, in the end, I took the message to be more like remember that lending might be giving. So just be clear so that whatever you lend/give you don't have to be resentful later because resentment is no gift!<br /><br />As for me, I don't always know what to do and I make plenty of mistakes so I like to, if I'm making a mistake, err on the side of generosity. The mistake of stinginess and fear is all too easy to make.<br /><br />Thank you for your thoughtful response.Anna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-26270974507037554542013-03-06T23:33:58.324-08:002013-03-06T23:33:58.324-08:00"I have to consider that people use the term ..."I have to consider that people use the term "selfish" in order to control the people around them. You know, you're only selfish if you're not doing what I wanted you to do! Right?!"<br /><br />Grunt. <br /><br />My mother used to label me "selfish" because I apparently didn't think of her, more, or enough, or at the precise times she needed me to. But of course, she was in a messed up situation (as was I), since she was dealing with a catastrophic illness that no one could see, one that would land me with being her role-reversed caretaker, at times. Hard to do as an adolescent who does not want to watch their mother suffer, let alone lose them to some careless mistake at just the wrong instant.<br /><br />Watching your mother suffer with very little you can do will either imbue you with a deep, cut-off cynicism about why we humans stick around this planet anyway; or make you into someone committed to alleviating the suffering of others. Or, here in the real world, someone going desperately between the urgent need to be both things, at the same time, to as many people possible, so at least your brain does not implode.<br /><br />Re: borrowing, all I can say is, all of our time here is borrowed. If you're able, ask anyone who has come or gone before us. So borrowing (and paying back) impermanent material things? Pfft. Some days, you really can because you should. Sometimes, the payback isn't always in ledger-line material terms. LB Johnsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-72365381200391590272013-03-05T15:03:44.100-08:002013-03-05T15:03:44.100-08:00Hello Los Gatos Girl!
I tell my own children the ...Hello Los Gatos Girl!<br /><br />I tell my own children the same thing. Everyone has lapses of judgement and such but it takes discipline and courage to tell the truth about yourself.<br /><br />I really applaud you efforts to look deeply into your relationship with your mother and try to model better. You are making the world a better place!<br /><br />Thank you for reading!Anna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-50000000168373948122013-03-04T19:25:44.525-08:002013-03-04T19:25:44.525-08:00My mom would lie to manipulate us into acting like...My mom would lie to manipulate us into acting like she thought we should...she'd get these visions of how things were and then try to get everyone around her to act accordingly. Took me a long time before I'd ask myself if what she told me were truth or lies. Which made for a difficult relationship.<br />We've always told our daughter (14) that we may be angry with her for something but she'll get punished FAR more severely if we catch her lying to us. Thankfully, she's been too honest for her own good :-)Los Gatos Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10609446988931868045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6720408667931090260.post-31681229579655336792012-12-27T22:24:10.388-08:002012-12-27T22:24:10.388-08:00Wow! Thank you for this feedback. It's always ...Wow! Thank you for this feedback. It's always interesting to find out what interests who and why. Maybe this one resonates because you aren't really having heartbreak issues right now.<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />Anna<br /><br />PS You know what our home town is like. Love it now but growing up?Anna Colibrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776904365856298165noreply@blogger.com