Sweet Nothings -- Guest Post By the Brave and Beautiful Lisa Xu

Theme song: Sweet Nothing

Friends, please allow me the honor of introducing my first official crazybeautiful guest blogger, Lisa Xu.

As some of you know, this blog is open not just for my own heartbreak, but yours as well. One of the goals of this blog is to help people feel less alone and another is to give people an opportunity to express themselves. Crazybeautiful explores heartbreak in all its forms because, in my view, joy and beauty can break your heart (open) just as sorrow can.

I am honored to share Lisa's writing both because of her courage (one of my very favorite human qualities!) but because, as well, she expresses, in a very direct and heartfelt way, the pain of love and betrayal. These feelings, while perhaps not universal, are a sadly common feature of contemporary relationship. Yet, no matter how often it happens, it is still devastating.

Here's what Lisa had to say: "Here goes my entry. I feel a bit awkward. Never done anything like this before! Thanks for the opportunity. This one hurt the most by far."

Without further ado, Miss Lisa Xu!

Sweet Nothings by Lisa Xu

When you fall in love, or even worse, finally get to love someone, you want to believe everything they say. You want to believe that they love you immensely. You want to believe that they only want to be with you, that they want to build a bright future with you, and that you are the most amazing woman they've ever been with.

Those words feel so good that they numb the fact that your chest is wide open. Even though you're at your most vulnerable state, you wouldn't know. You feel safe at your weakest. Every sense is heightened and it seems like you two can get over everything together.

You even want to believe him that he only wants you after you find him flirting to other women. You want to believe that he doesn't want to hurt you anymore after you find out he cheated on you.

When the feeling of safety goes away, that is when it really hurts. You feel the cold air hitting your gaping chest. The raw feeling of being stabbed and betrayed. All of those feelings came from words that never had any truth.

Thank you, Lisa, and I wish you a speedily healed heart!

As I've said before, the human heart was made for breaking yet it is equally true that infinite healing is possible. May Lisa's heart heal quickly and well so that she emerges a stronger, wiser and more loving woman as a result of her experience.

Your Turn

Has it happened to you? Have you been betrayed? How did you heal? Let us know in the comments.

Guest Blogger Bio

Lisa Xu is a San Francisco native pursuing a career in nursing. She loves baking, cooking, yoga, and exercising.